From a young age, I have always had a very difficult time putting my feelings into words. Perhaps it is because my parents always absent or excuse their feelings, or it is because I am just a thinking type that tends to ignore that type of people interaction, even if I choose not to. It ends up being something similar to the effect of “I don’t care. I’m sad. I’m angry.” Just simple, little statements, facts about the situation apparently have been suffice enough to explain my emotion at the current time.
Nowadays, I know better. I now know that emotions are complicated. Many different things contribute to one particular part of your life that manifests in how you feel at a given point. I get it. But what do I do about it when I feel uncomfortable in one way or another. Sad, angry, mad, whatever. Each situation is different, of course. But how do I identify and regulate my emotions properly?
It is unfortunate that my parents were never really parents and taught me any life skills or enforced any form of parenting upon me. It is unfortunate that my shitty victim-blaming skills have caused me to yet again blame my parents. I need to be the one taking accountability for my own action. But how can I do that?
More importantly, why should I do that?
KEVIN KIM 